Men’s Sexuality Is Complex

An honest model for men’s sexual health grapples with its complexity. We are not the simple, testosterone-driven, google-eyed, lap dogs for women portrayed in beer commercials. Men who model their sex on a Bud Light commercial (think wet T-shirt contest and female mud wrestling) may have fun in college, but this will restrict your adult sexual growth and health.

We propose a new psycho-biosocial, integrative model, that can be valuable for the man (and his partner) from his 20s to his 80s. We label our model the “Good-Enough Sex” model. What is different about our integrative psycho-biosocial model is that it includes multidimensional aspects of each component (mind, body, relationship) plus positive, realistic expectations based on accurate, scientific information and personally relevant guidelines. For example, the psychological dimension appreciates that we have important sexual thoughts (cognitions), feelings (emotions), and actions (behaviors) that need to be integrated. We want you to see the complexity of male sexuality, not trivialize it; to feel confident; to respect your manliness; to understand how to build your sexual satisfaction individually and in a relationship. These features vary and develop throughout your life. Sexuality is not set in stone, immutable, but rather evolving and contributing to the distinctive man that you are at each age.

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